Tease and denial, in the context of male chastity is where a woman (usually – because gay men play at male chastity, too), will repeatedly take her man to the edge of orgasm … and then stop. I know it seems cruel, heartless and even actually wicked, but in truth …
Is to most men an essential element of male chastity, especially if their chastity is a being taken a little more seriously than just brief chastity play.
Well, to answer that, let's look at what male chastity is intended to accomplish.
The first thing to understand is male chastity is not the same as male celibacy. Celibacy is something you'll typically find in a cold, stale and unhappy marriage or relationship where there is often no sexual contact at all. And, in my experience, both men and women in celibate relationships are unhappy with it (and it has to be said, this is a major root cause of many affairs).
Male chastity, on the other hand, is something practiced between loving couples who want more intimacy and sex together and choose to achieve this by giving the woman control of the man's orgasms. The net result of this over time is their relationship becomes much more like relationships are when they're new – with each focusing more and more on the physical and emotional needs of the other.
Now, this is all well and good but unless your man is the submissive type – and most men interested in male chastity are NOT submissive – him simply attending to your sexual needs is not enough, and simply 'locking and leaving' him is not going to make for a happy foray into male chastity.
And the answer is, of course, Tease and Denial.
At first it can be difficult, not only emotionally (because your man is going to be begging you to make him orgasm, and you have had the best part of you adulthood conditioning you to allow that) but also physically because the sad truth is many women do not know their men's physiology so well that they know when he's about to come (in other words, they do not stop in time!).
But that's no big problem, and so long as you're both being adult and sensible about it, and 'accidents' are not a big deal, unless you choose to make them one.
Thankfully, it does not take long to learn this essential skill and once you really do get the idea that while your man wants to come he craves denial, you're going to realise what an amazing thing the male chastity lifestyle really is. And once you are practiced at it, you'll find you can keep your man going with several T & D sessions a week – and I can tell you from my own experience with John, my husband, that's more than enough to keep him on his toes!
If you've been seeking information about male chastity and tease and denial, you've probably become disheartened and dispirited by the amount of nonsense out there written by sad wannabes who have no real clue about the lifestyle.